How to Start “Tough Conversations” About Medical Care

Are you a healthy, active and busy California aging adult? Do you think about your future? Have you had any tough conversations with your family about what would happen if you had a sudden illness or accident and were unable to make decisions for yourself? These are definitely not holiday or fun supper conversations, but they are necessary. It is important for your loved ones to know what you want in the event of a sudden crisis or incapacity. You should actually begin these conversations as soon as possible in regard to your personal preferences for medical and long-term care choices. We have a few questions that we would like to share with you to ask yourself and also your family as you begin this critical discussion.

• Whom do you trust to make medical decisions on your behalf
• Whom do you NOT want to make decisions for you
• How do you feel about feeding tubes, life support, and other artificial life-saving devices
• Is there any type of medical care you would NEVER want
• If you were permanently disabled or incapacitated, what would contribute or take away from your “quality of life?
• Do you have a preference between skilled nursing home care and in-home healthcare?
• How will you and your family pay for the care you may need if co-pays become excessive or insurance does not cover your treatment?

It is extremely important that all of your decisions and choices should be legally documented in your estate plan. Therefore, make an appointment to meet with an experienced and qualified California estate planning attorney as soon as possible. Your estate planning attorney can offer advice and assistance as you choose a healthcare decision maker who will ultimately carry out all your healthcare decisions if you are unable.

We know this article may raise more questions than it answers. Our office is here for you and your loved ones. Please call us to schedule a meeting time.